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Blog EntryBEWARE OF HAIR RUBBER BANDS (Made in China)Jul 1, '08 6:57 PM
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Just try to be careful when you are buying hairbands down the road... Who knows what it is made from?

BEIJING (AFP) - Used condoms are being recycled into hair bands in southern China, threatening to spread sexually-transmittable diseases they were originally meant to prevent, state media reported Tuesday.

In the latest example of potentially harmful Chinese-made products, rubber hair bands have been found in local markets and beauty salons in Dongguan and Guangzhou cities in southern Guangdong province, China Daily newspaper said.

'These cheap and colourful rubber bands and hair ties sell well... threatening the health of local people,' it said.

Despite being recycled, the hair bands could still contain bacteria and viruses, it said.

'People could be infected with AIDS, (genital) warts or other diseases if they hold the rubber bands or strings in their mouths while waving their hair into plaits or buns,' the paper quoted a local dermatologist who gave only his surname, Dong, as saying.

A bag of ten of the recycled bands sells for just 25 sen (three cents), much cheaper than others on the market, accounting for their popularity, the paper said.

A government official was quoted as saying recycling condoms was illegal.

China 's manufacturing industry has been repeatedly tarnished this year by a string of scandals involving shoddy or dangerous goods made for both domestic and foreign markets.

In response, it launched a public relations blitz this summer aimed at playing up efforts to strengthen monitoring systems.


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Blog EntryICE Will Speak For YouMay 27, '08 2:52 PM
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Subject: ICE will speak for you

Dear Friends,

We all carry mobile phones with names & numbers stored in its memory but nobody, other than ourselves, knows which of these numbers belong to our closest family or friends.

If we were to be involved in an accident or were taken ill, the people attending us would have our mobile phone but wouldn't know whom to call.
Yes, there are hundreds of numbers stored but which one is the contact person in case of an emergency?  Hence this 'ICE' (In Case of Emergency) Campaign.

The concept of 'ICE' is catching on quickly. It is a method of contact during emergency situations. As cell phones are carried by the majority of the population, all you need to do is store the number of a contact person or persons who should be contacted during emergency under the name 'ICE' (In Case Of Emergency).

The idea was thought up by a paramedic who found that when he went to the scenes of accidents, there were always mobile phones with patients, but they didn't know which number to call.  He therefore thought that it would be a good idea if there were a nationally recognized name for this purpose.  In an emergency situation, Emergency Service personnel and hospital staffwould be able to quickly contact the right person by simply dialing the number you have stored as 'ICE'.

For more than one contact name simply enter ICE1, ICE2 and ICE3 etc..  A great idea that will make a difference!

Let's spread the concept of ICE by storing an ICE number in our mobile phones today!  Email, Blog, Post, Text this message to everyone on your mailing list.

ICE will speak for you when you are not able to!


Universal Studios theme park soon to rise in RP
Posted by allan on Apr 7, '08 1:27 AM for everyone

By Zinnia De La Peña  / Monday, April 7, 2008

The arrival of a Universal Studios theme park in the Philippines is creating a huge buzz after the Genting Berhad Group secured the Philippine Amusement and Gaming Corp.(Pagcor)’s nod for its proposed project within the Las Vegas-like Bagong Nayong Pilipino-Manila Bay Integrated Tourism City.

Pagcor chairman and chief executive officer Efraim Genuino said the Genting Group has committed to develop 35 hectares of the 90-hectare prime reclaimed land facing Manila Bay into a world-class tourist destination.

Genuino said the Genting Berhad Group is planning to invest $3 billion in the Manila Bay Integrated City, the Philippines’ biggest tourism development project.

The Genting Berhad Group owns the Genting Highlands Resort in Malaysia and holds the exclusive development rights of film giant Universal Studios in Asia. It has teamed up with its subsidiary Star Cruises and Alliance Global Inc., the listed investment holding firm of retail tycoon Andrew Tan, for its proposed project in the $15-20 billion casino resort complex along Manila Bay.

Genuino said the Genting Berhard Group’s proposal includes the development of leisure and entertainment facilities including a theme park, state-of-the-art theaters, amusement and cultural centers, retail and gaming center and hotels.

Universal Studio’s movie-theme Hollywood park has 13 attractions based on movies including Shrek, Jurassic Park and The Terminator. Excluding its restaurants and theaters, the theme park alone draws about four million visitors a year.

Besides Hollywood, Universal Studios has other parks in Orlando, Barcelona and Osaka, Japan.

Another investor group, Aruze Corp. of Japan is planning to put up an integrated resort featuring a hotel with 2,000 standard rooms and 300 VIP suites; a major oceanarium targeted to be the world’s largest; theaters, a sports arena, a Holy museum and a giant ferris wheel similar to the London Eye to be known as the Manila Eye.

The Aruze Group is likewise infusing $3 billion in capital for the development of 40 hectares of land in the Manila Bay Integrated City.

Genuino said Aruze, a leading gaming machine maker known for its ties with the popular Wynn Resorts in Las Vegas and Macau, may start development of its project in the second quarter this year which may take two years to complete.

Other groups whose project concepts have been approved by Pagcor include Bloomburry Investments Ltd. of Australia  which will develop 15 hectares of the reclaimed prime land, and the SM Investments Corp. (SMIC).

Bloomburry plans to build a hotel, sports arena and other tourist attractions.

Genuino said SMIC has yet to hatch a plan for the Manila Bay Integrated City but said this would be a unique concept. 

Tessie Sy, SMIC vice-chair, said that aside from developments within the Mall of Asia complex along Roxas Boulevard, the company may work on something in the future to further promote the tourism estate.

SMIC, together with international hotel firms Carlson Hotels Asia Pacific and Accor will develop and manage a 350-room hotel in SM Bay City, which will be located near the SMX Convention Center.

Meantime, two administration congressmen supported yesterday the Integrated Tourism City, saying the nation should rake in billions in potential income from the project instead of growing grass on reclaimed land.

“We also need jobs. We have 430,000 new college graduates a year, but not all can be absorbed by existing companies,” Palawan Rep. Antonio Alvarez, House trade and industry committee chairman, said in the midst of reports that Catholic bishops are opposing the plan.

Manila Rep. Amado  Bagatsing said he would prefer “that we grow money instead of grass on reclaimed land in Manila Bay.”

Alvarez said the Pagcor project would put the country in a position to catch a portion of China’s increasing spending on gambling.

“Due to China’s growing affluence, its 1.3 billion people are spending $70 billion in gambling bets a year, according to one estimate,” he said.

He said the gambling revenues of Macau, a Chinese territory, increased by 47 percent to $10.34 billion last year and have exceeded those of Las Vegas.

He said the Pagcor project could also prevent rich Filipinos from going to Macau or Las Vegas and would allow them to “just spend their money here.” - With Jess Diaz


Blog EntryLayts, Kamera, Aksiyown! Apr 3, '08 5:19 PM
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Layts, Kamera, Aksiyown! Apr 2, '08 2:28 AM
by Harold for group filipinocommunity

Hindi naman sa nag-iinarte ako pero hindi ako masyadong nanunuod ng mga pinoy movies. With the exception of some remarkable pinoy movies na alam ko namang quality ang pagkakagawa at maganda ang story (some of which are posted in the REVIEW section of this site), hindi ako nagsasayang ng pera at pagod para panuorin yung mga "generic" pinoy flicks. Kasi naman, halos pare-pareho na lang yung story at style of delivery ng mga films natin.Very predictable.Nakakasawa.

Heto nga, nailista ko tuloy yung sa mga tingin ko eh "bulok" at overused na plot ng mga films natin.


Lahat ng finale action scene ay magaganap sa "warehouse." Pinaka-common ang warehouse ng yelo, lumang gulong, drum, lumang kotse/tren o bote. Pwede ring kahit saan basta dilapidated at wala ng value ung mga bagay sa lugar na yun. Syrempre nga naman, pag nagkaroon ng blasting scenes, hindi masyadong masakit sa bulsa ng producer na pasabugin yung mga bagay sa loob ng warehouse.



Hindi tinatamaan ng bala ang bida kahit na tatlumpung tao ang bumabaril sa kanya, pero lahat sila tinatamaan nya kahit isang baril lang ang gamit niya. Laging sa lupa tumatama ang bala ng kaaway. Kung mabaril man ang bida, hindi muna mamamatay. Laging daplis lang. Usually, tatamaan siya sa right shoulder (pwede naman sa left shoulder o sa dibdib diba?).Pero yung mga kontrabida, kahit sa binti o sa kuko lang tamaan, tepok agad. Dagdag pa, hindi nakakaramdam ng sakit ang bida sa bakbakan, pero sisigaw ito at aaray pag ginagamot na ang mga sugat nya ng isang magandang babae.

Kung merong car chase scene, maganda yung kotse ng bida at pakarag-karag at luma naman yung sa mga humahabol kasi more often than not, sasabog lang naman ito or mahuhulog sa bangin. Hindi gaya sa Hollywood na wala silang keber pasabugin ang Benz, Lamborghini or Ferrari. Usually, nagaganap ito sa mga empty highway. Kung medyo galante ang producer, magdadagdag siya ng mga extra gaya ng taho vendor at kung sino-sinong tao na makikipag-patentero  sa mga sasakyan kasi baka masagasaan sila ng mga naghahabulang kotse.

Lumalabas lagi ang pulis kapag tapos na ang fight scenes. Usually, patay na lahat ng goons at lalabas na duguan ang bida mula sa warehouse habang akay-akay ng kanyang leading lady.

Kapag nag face-off na yung bida at kontrabida, nagkakaroon pa sila ng sobrang habang pag-uusap na parang mag-syota sa telepono.Ilalabas muna nila yung mga hinanakit nila sa isa’t-isa. Usually galit ang bida sa kontrabida dahil ni-rape or pinatay nito ang kapatid o ang kamag-anak nya (nanay,tatay, ate, kuya, kinakapatid, kabiyak, anak, pinsan, tiyo, tiya, lolo,lola, ninong, ninang, apo, apo sa tuhod, apo sa talampakan, ninuno). In the course of their conversation, mababanggit na rin yung title ng movie gaya ng “Isang Bala Ka Lang,”“Hindi Ka Na Sisikatan ng Araw,” o “Buhay Mo ang Kabayaran.”

  

Mura lang ang baril at pwede itong itapon kung wala nang bala. Minsan naman, tuwing kinakailangan, makakapulot ang bida ng baril na may bala.

Sa umpisa ay nag-aaway o may hindi mapag-kasunduan ang mga characters. Pero sa bandang, huli, kung kelan naayos na nila ang lahat ng gulo, malalaman naman nila na may sakit yung isang bidang character at malapit na itong mamatay. Syempre, todo emote na yung mga ibang support characters at pagsisisi to the max ang drama nila.

Kaya ng bida ang dalawampung tao sa bakbakan dahil hindi naman sila sumusugod ng sabay-sabay, laging isa-isa.

May iniiwang sanggol sa harap ng simbahan or sa gate ng bahay ng isang mayamang mag-asawa. Babalikan na lang ito ng nanay niya after many years dahil nakakaangat na sa buhay (usually, nakapangasawa ito ng rich foreigner na namatay agad kaya instant milyonarya siya).

Kadalasan kinikidnap ang leading lady. Syempre todo rescue naman ang machong bida at sugod kaagad siya sa lumang warehouse kahit wala pang nagsasabi sa kanya na doon nga dinala yung leading lady niya. Ang leading lady, kahit hindi pa nakakahawak ng baril sa buong buhay niya, kapag tutulong na sa bida, aba, sharpshooter ang lola mo!Asintado lagi ang kalaban.


Kapag nalaman nung bidang lalaki na ikakasal na yung leading lady niya sa iba at ngayong araw rin ang kasal, mare-realize niya na mahal pa rin niya ito at ipaglalaban niya ang kanilang pag-ibig. Sasakay agad ito sa taxi kahit hindi pa niya alam kung saang simbahan ang kasalan.Matatrapik ang sinasakyan niyang taxi dahil sa EDSA ito dumaan.Matataranta siya.Walang siyang ibang choice kung hindi bumaba ng taxi (usually, hindi pinapakita na nagbayad siya) at tumakbo papuntang simbahan. Kapag tatanungin na nung pari ung girl na “Do you take this man as your lawfully wedded husband…?,” biglang bubukas ang pinto ng simbahan. Papasok ang pawisang leading man at sisigaw na “Itigil ang kaaaaaaasssaaaaaaaaaal!” Ayun, mare-realize din nung girl na mahal pa rin niya itong sweaty guy at sabay silang tatakas sa simbahan.Kawawang groom.Sayang ang gastos sa gown,barong,simbahan at lalo na sa catering.

Sa comedy, kahit sa squatter lang nakatira ang mga bida, laging may out of town trip. At take note ha,usually duon pa sila pumupunta sa sosyal na resort kung saan sila sumasakay sa banana boat, jet ski or parasailing.Kasama syempre nila yung mga leading ladies nila na nakasuot ng bikini.Hindi rin mawawala yung production number nila sa beach.Kakantahin nila yung theme song ng movie na tagalized version ng isang sikat na English pop song. Bigla na lang magsusulputan ang mga back-up dancers na naka-bikini at trunks.Dadaigin pa nila ang isang production number sa ASAP or SOP.

Umaandar agad yung mga kotseng naka-park na pinapasok ng bida na hindi naman kanila. So parang ok lang mag-carnap kasi yung bida naman ang kumuha at gagamitin niya ito para mahabol yung mga bad guys?

Yung bida, laging may sidekick na komedyante na usually ay hindi kagwapuhan para hindi nito masapawan ang bida. Pag mamamatay na ung sidekick dahil hinarang niya yung bala na dapat ay tatama sa bida, may one-page script muna itong sasabihin sa bida bago mamatay.

Sampalan.Walang kamatayang sampalan.Kapag todo emote na at nanginginig na sa pagde-deliver ng lines sina Maricel, Vilma, Lorna, Nora, at Sharon, asahan mong sasampalin nila yung kausap nila.

Kapag may conflict sa family or kelangang mag-migrate ng isang family member, laging sa STATES ang punta.Parang wala nang ibang alam na bansa maliban sa USA.

Ang kontrabida, laging naka-black leather jacket, tapos ang tawag lagi sa kanya eh BOSS. Applicable din ito sa bidang lalaki na naka-jacket kahit tirik na tirik ang araw. Minsan naman, kahit gabi na, naka-shades pa rin.Kahit may fight scenes or stunts, hindi pwedeng magulo ang buhok ng bidang lalaki.


Kapag may riot sa bar, laging babasagan ng bida ng bote sa ulo ang mga goons.

Nagmumukhang pedophile sina Robin Padilla, Aga Muhlach, Bong Revilla at lalo na ang mga senior stars gaya nina Eddie Garcia at Dolphy dahil ang mga leading lady nila ay ranging from 18-25 years old. Kahit mukha na silang mag-tito or mag-lolo, sige pa rin ang delivery nila ng mga sweet lines with matching embrace at kiss.


Siguro may alam pa kayong plots na nakalimutan kong ilagay dito. Sana lang maging mas avant garde naman yung movie industry natin for us to rise above the shadows of these overused movie plots.Hindi ko naman sinasabing talunin natin yung mga Hollywood movies 'coz it's like crying out for the moon.All I am saying is that people in the movie industry should start thinking out of the box and explore new avenues. Well, sa akin lang naman ito.

Oh siya, "layts, kamera, aksiyown!"



Blog EntryThe Tabo Travel Troupe - Join Na! Apr 3, '08 5:21 AM
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wouldyabelieve the proverbial tabo, eh bida at may sariling multiply page?  join na at maaliw...  post your pics with your tabo in your travel escapades...for canon digicam users, take pics using color accent.  the pic above is one of the few ideas that a member has created for t-shirt prints... interesting... i personally like this one with the passport & immigration stamps... hay, naaliw na naman si tett! 



Blog Entry9 things i hate about peeps...Mar 27, '08 11:35 AM
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9 Things I Hate About Peeps…

1. People who point at their wrist while asking for the time.... I know where my watch is pal, where the hell is yours? Do I point at my crotch when I ask where the toilet is? 

2. People who are willing to get off their ass to search the entire room for the TV remote because they refuse to walk to the T.V. and change the channel manually.
 
Right! What good is cake if you can't eat it?

4.
 When people say 'it's always the last place you look'. Of course it is. Why the hell would you keep looking after you've found it? Do people do this? Who and where are they? Gonna Kick their asses! 

5. When people say while watching a film 'did you see that?'. No Loser, I paid $12 to come to the cinema and stare at the damn floor. 

6. People who ask 'Can I ask you a question?'.... Didn't really give me a choice there, did ya sunshine? 

7. When something is 'new and improved!'. Which is it? If it's new, then there has never been anything before it. If it's an improvement, then there must have been something before it, couldn't be new. 

8. When people say 'life is short'. What the hell?? Life is the longest damn thing anyone ever does!! What can you do that's longer?

9. When you are waiting for the bus and someone asks 'Has the bus come yet?'. If the bus came would I be standing here, dumb ass?


Blog Entryhottie of the day! JESSE METCALFEMar 12, '08 1:03 PM
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Girls, check out Jesse's photos!  Isn't he a real hottie!  I'm kindasorta advertising for him... Count me out of his fans club haha!  Lucky Eva Longoria... hmmp!  I need comments, tell me what you think?  Isn't he soon to be rated 5-star or a 10 on a scale of 1-10, add a few more years?  Or, is he it now?   PhotobucketPhotobucketPhotobucketPhotobucketPhotobucketPhotobucketPhotobucket

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Blog Entrywanna see the doctor?Mar 11, '08 12:41 PM
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Blog Entrylesson for the day...karma effect!Mar 11, '08 12:39 PM
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Blog EntryMy New IPHONE! Totally Awesome!Feb 6, '08 1:22 PM
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my new toy...love it!  1 for me, 1 for kimi and for fen? (muntik na...mama elvs overruled...sorry fen...use to the max mo muna your N81)...walang makakapigil sa maganak na tekkies! 

imma say...it's kindasorta not user-friendly, like, the sim card slot only pops out when an embedded button next to it is pressed with a pin, paper clip, earring or anything minute and pointed...then you have to cut out one corner of the sim to fit the slot, extra careful that you don't snip the gold metal thingy...this outfitted sim, plus a flimsy turbo sim, must go together in the sim card slot that you pop back in, after several tries...whew!  that's why they advise not to switch sims often... sim card contacts can not be copied or moved en masse to the phonebook...ssshhh...a few minor glitches, but i'm not discouraging you to own one...wifi in the palm of your hands? betcha, can't beat that...lemme say, as a proud owner and i swear now a junkie... IPHONE is TOTAL KOOLNESS! 


Blog EntryMaking Pancakes!Aug 14, '07 12:47 PM
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Making Pancakes

Six year old Brandon decided one Saturday morning to fix his parents pancakes He found a big bowl and spoon, pulled a chair to the counter, opened the cupboard and pulled out the heavy flour canister, spilling it on the floor.

He scooped some of the flour into the bowl with his hands, mixed in most of a cup of milk and added some sugar, leaving a floury trail on the floor which by now had a few tracks left by his kitten.


Brandon was covered with flour and getting frustrated. He wanted this to be something very good for Mom and Dad, but it was getting very bad

He didn't know what to do next, whether to put it all into the oven or on the stove and he didn't know how the stove worked!. Suddenly he saw his kitten licking from the bowl of mix and reached to push her away, knocking the egg carton to the floor. Frantically he tried to clean up this monumental mess but slipped on the eggs, getting his pajamas white and sticky.


And just then he saw Dad standing at the door. Big crocodile tears welled up in Brandon 's eyes. All he'd wanted to do was something good, but he'd made a terrible mess. He was sure a scolding was coming, maybe even a spanking. But his father just watched him.

Then, walking through the mess, he picked up his crying son, hugged him and loved him, getting his own pajamas white and sticky in the process!


That's how God deals with us.. We try to do something good in life, but it turns into a mess. Our marriage gets all sticky or we insult a friend, or we can't stand our job, or our health goes sour.


Sometimes we just stand there in tears because we can't think of anything else to do. That's when God picks us up and loves us and forgives us, even though some of our mess gets all over Him.

But just because we might mess up, we can't stop trying to 'make pancakes' for God or for others. Sooner or later we'll get it right, and then they'll be glad we tried...

I was thinking and I wondered if I had any wounds needing to be healed, friendships that need rekindling or three words needing to be said, sometimes, 'I love you' can heal & bless! Remind every one of your friends that you love them. Even if you think they don't love back, you would be amazed at what those three little words, a smile, and a reminder like this can do.

Just in case I haven't told you lately... I LOVE YA!!! 
suppose one morning you were called to God; do all your friends know you love them?

Never Stop "Making Pancakes"!


Blog EntryLife Is Too Short For DramaJul 22, '07 11:57 AM
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Life is too short for drama & petty things, so…

Kiss Slowly, Laugh Insanely, Love Truly and

Forgive Quickly! Once you change the way

you look at things; things you look at change.

Blog EntryIf A Man Wants You...Jul 22, '07 11:41 AM
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If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away. 

If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay.

Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior. 

Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.

Stop trying to change yourself for a relationship that's not meant to be.

Slower is better. Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy.

If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then heck no, you can't "be friends".

A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend.  Remember that.

Don't settle. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is.

Don't stay because you think "it will get better."

You'll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better.

The only person you can control in a relationship is you.

Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women.
He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant, why would he treat you any differently?

Always have your own set of friends separate from his.

Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you.

If something bothers you, speak up.

Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later.

You cannot change a man's behavior. Change comes from within.

Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are... even if he has more education or in a better job.

Do not make him into a quasi-god.  He is a man, nothing more nothing less.

Never let a man define who you are.

Never borrow someone else's man.

If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you.

A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you.

All men are NOT dogs.

You should not be the one doing all the bending...compromise is two way street.

You need time to heal between relationships...there is nothing cute about baggage...

deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship.

You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you... a relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals.

Look for someone complimentary, not supplementary.

Dating is fun...even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr. Right.

Make him miss you sometimes...when a man always know where you are,

and you're always readily available to him - he takes it for granted.

Never move into his mother's house. Never co-sign for a man.

Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need.

Keep him in your radar but get to know others.


Blog EntryLove or Lust?Jul 15, '07 2:49 PM
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Ok, you know you like him. You really, really like him. But your raging hormones have left your head (and your heart) spinning.  Is it love at first sight or just a temporary overload of the pituitary gland? Deciding whether your feelings are the product of cupid's arrow or your garden variety crush isn't always as easy as you might think (especially since some of the same hormones that trigger lust are involved in falling in love).  And when you're caught in the throws of one of those L-words it can help to ask yourself a few key questions when deciding which one.

Something to talk about

Do you want everyone to know about him?  It could be lust.  Want everyone to know her?  We might be talking love.  While we can't stop talking (or thinking) about any new flame, it's a good sign that you're headed for the real thing when you want your friends and family to get more than a dose of her charm or a glimpse of his biceps.  As social creatures, we're inclined to weave our contacts into networks or tribes.  It doesn't make a lot of sense to invite your eye-candy into that circle, particularly if the only thing that draws you to that person is sex appeal.  Those contacts are usually temporary, and on some level you know that.  They don't belong in your core social network and as much time as you may spend with your object of lust, it's not comfortable to welcome them there.  When you're falling in love, however, you're struck with the persistent notion that everyone you know should love your beloved, too.  He or she has become a real part of you and it's only natural to want to imbed that partner deeply into your tribe.

The test of time

Powerful lust is intoxicating, and it can feel very much like being in love.  But lust is the hundred meter dash to love's marathon.  The adrenaline rush alone can make you feel like it will last forever, but most of the time those feelings play themselves out long before the distance finish.  Whether you're positive it's only a fling or certain you're headed for long-term romance, take your time before making that call.  Love at first sight looks a lot like lust once you've spent your second wind.

Perchance to dream

Find yourself daydreaming about your someone at odd moments?  Of course you do!  Whether we're talking about a hot date or your soul mate, those thoughts are likely to take up a good portion of your idle time, and some of your not-so-idle time, as well.  But pay attention to the way you dream about him or her, and you might find a clue to the root of your attachment.  Lustful fantasies are fair game for all attractions, of course (It's not like we stop thinking about sex once we start getting serious), and those newly infatuated dream up all kinds of emotionally charged scenarios.  You might find yourself running to her imaginary rescue or comforting him though a fictional crisis.  It doesn't take a degree in psychology to read into what those mean -- daydreams are wish fulfillments for feeling admired, powerful, needed, appreciated or forgiving and can be excellent clues as to what you crave from another person.  So, when your dreams start telling you that what you wish for is love, take heed.  It could be in the conversations you have, in daydreams about the future or about quiet nights at home, but it will be about what love means to you.  When your fantasies start getting deeper, it's a solid clue that your feelings have, as well.

Turning the tables
Can lust turn into love? Actually, this is very often exactly how it works.  Lust isn't just nature's way of encouraging us to reproduce, it gives way to a bond designed for lasting companionship, a partnership for survival and a team equipped to raise and nurture children.  The hormones involved in sexual attraction, touch and orgasm facilitate those bonds, which is how it's possible for a casual partner to transform into someone we want around when the lights are on, too.  And because we are more than a cocktail of hormones and impulses, we also invite our brains into the mix of influences.  If we genuinely like that person on an intellectual level, we begin to think alike and to value the perspective of those we once saw only through lustful eyes.  

The reality is there's no one point in which lust magically transforms into the stuff of fairy tales.  It's not a threshold event, but a wide spectrum from base sexual attraction to trusting, lasting partnership.  Sometimes we move along it quietly; sometimes the transformation is shocking and thunderous, and yes, sometimes our feelings never move forward at all.  I guess that's why no matter how many times you've fallen in love, it's still hard to recognize when it comes along again.  It also explains how each new connection can be so scary, so exciting and so reliably unpredictable.


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